Never Say Never

Our prejudice of people and places puts us in precarious positions. And they are precarious because they potentially inhibit a forward movement (or backward, as the case may be). When whoever coined Never Say Never, I wonder if they were being contradictory on purpose. The last word contradicts the first two or the first word contradicts the last two. Your choice. Some crafty person thought about it I am sure, perhaps waiting for others to see the contradiction.

6904: Never Say Never

In a no – there is an automatic decline of an experience, which is why, recently, I started saying yes. When I look back on my life experiences, I am glad I said yes. For the ones, which I declined, I will never know. Also, it’s easy to step back to a no after you have said yes; it’s seldom possible, vice versa. Then, there are sacrifices that come along with the yes. And it is impossible to weigh known sacrifices with unknown gains that the yes has the potential to bring, at a later unknown date. Then, your yes is a leap—less, of faith—more, of an abstract calculation. With the knowledge that you always can draw out the no card at a later date, when the yes isn’t worth the effort.

No yes, however, should be blind, or, for the sake of it. Our intuition (as against our prejudice) plays an important role in this yes and no of life. It requires a down-calibration of our prejudice and an up-calibration of our intuition. And while the results of a yes or a no may feed our prejudice in some way, it enhances our experience, which, in a very subtle yet sophisticated manner—feeds our intuition.

This little life of ours is capable of experiencing more than we believe it can.


12 thoughts on “Never Say Never

  1. Interesting piece. I’ve touched on this subject too and expressed the view that even detrimental experience is of value. ‘What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger’ I guess. Good read.


  2. Yes and No are powerful words, because they denote a final decision. I equally value both of these words. I am as grateful for what I refused to do, as I am for what I agreed to do. Choices are ethical tangles that we must grapple with as best we can. This post certainly starts a good discussion on the topic.


    • And that discussion is a long one, perhaps never ending. I would imagine that our ability to categorically say “no” has to be a result having having said “yes” many times before, and then having learnt, when a “no” is deserved. It’s a path towards perfection only, I doubt if it can be ever perfected (unless we have a crystal ball) 🙂

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