After many-a-forwards, I had become weary of those that came in the mailbox constantly asking me to be positive. A badly-formatted, and often badly-worded mail forwarded by a friend who wasn’t in otherwise in touch, was to become my motivation pill for the day. There is a good chance that the subject line for such forwards was “Good Morning” or something equivalent. Each such mail made me hate them even more, sometime the disgust transferring to the sender.
Recently, A friend started forwarding some interesting mails. And in separating the shit from the better ones, I ended up scanning these mushy-motivating mails.
It seemed to me that they had a recurring theme – be grateful for what you have, live in the moment, there is someone who loves you, value of friends and family, or a mash-up of the above. I still did not dwell upon them, yet, in the scanning could not help but notice them.
When I think of these in the context of how life happens to you, it starts making sense (which, does not justify the mushy, pastel coloured, diffused filter images and Hallmark text).
We pursue and seek that which is not available.
If you have planned to go for a picnic or a movie with five friends, all agree to join and at the last minute, two of them cancel, do you invest your energies in convincing them to come or do you invest it in enjoying the time with those who are willing to come? Often, the three who are willing to come, are taken for granted, whether they realise it or not. The movie or the picnic gets cancelled and a possible good time, is denied. In these very fast-paced and over-burdened times it is pretty difficult to do what was possible ten years ago. It is time allow people to cancel; time to allow them to make the choice.
To live in the moment, with those who are there. Even if those who are there is only you.