Ever felt like this? The sinking feeling? Ever been in this exact moment? When you know you are sinking and this is the last chance not to go with the moment; to execute that life-changing act?
Ever hesitated at this exact moment? Where has that taken (or not taken) you?
Hesitation then often leads to regret, in my experience. Regret is sometimes transient, sometimes long lasting—for me I’ve actually yet to have an enduring regret, but I’m still quite young.
Poignant!
==Baekho:
And I hope you don’t get to see many of those (enduring regrets)! But more, the thought of timing – how we behave in the exact moment…
==Citric:
Have been exactly in such a moment-but was powerless to take that life-changing decision/action.
And that regret still holds true..and the burden of that inaction has become a goliath.
You write very profoundly. Nice blog.
I like your style of presentation. Very profound, thoughtful and challenging.
==UEE:
Welcome to Gaizabonts!
Thank you for your comment. Will look for a corresponding post, soon, I hope.
==TSC:
Ah, Thank you sir!
Yes. I feel those moments come over me and feel that it’s somehow a future version of myself trying to tell me something. As if a future version of myself has deja vu and has laid down a ripple to try to help me. But it’s never clear enough to read beyond a feeling that it’s a decisive moment.
now that i come to think of that moment, it makes me feel miserable all over again
It occurs to me now that maybe hesitation occurs in these decision moments because of excess thought—”paralysis through overanalysis” as the saying goes.
What’s needed is either preformed resolve, or a spontaneously impulse and the wisdom to let it express it itself.
==RT:
I so agree with you. Very Richard Bach-esque (His book, Running from Safety).
==Bhumika:
You do know, that was *never* the intent!
==Baekho:
Paralysis, either through overanalysis, as you say or being just frozen. @ Frozen I mean, not so much in shock, as much as the inability to leave something, even though an opportunity presents itself. I think it was Sheldon Kopp, who said something like, “People prefer the security of known misery to the misery of unfamiliar insecurity.”
(This thought seems to be increasing in scope!)
I’d go for the spontaneous resolve any time, though I believe there is years of native and accumulated knowledge that works behind the most impulsive of decisions.
I don’t know Richard Bach. I’ll check that out.
Also, there’s a book about the ideas you are talking about with Baeko, Malcolm Gladwell,’s book “Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking”.
==Radiotooth:
I know, I wrote about it here!
Ah, I didn’t realize you wrote about it before. I didn’t finish it all the way, but I did like what it talked about. It may not be a novel idea to other people, but I didn’t have the language to talk about that idea before so it was nice to read his words. I don’t usually read popular books, so I didn’t realize there was a trend with books like that. Funny! (I’m tired, so excuse my writing if it’s hard to read.)
==RT:
Your writing is never hard to read!
These books, as I have mentioned in the post, have a certain patterned quality to them. If you have read a quarter of the book, you have pretty much understood what the book is about.
But, yes, they serve a purpose by providing a language.